Hi Trish,
You are welcome for the "Lipitor Dilemma" link. Great piece of reading.
I'll comment on your final question, but did want to say something about statins and Viagra. Not sure if you know that Viagra is causing blindness in men.
Yep, they go to the doc, and of course everyone's cholesterol is high (according to THEIR standards), AND their BP is usually high too (according to THEIR standards) So.... they get the statins and the BP meds. Big surprise that they now have ED. So... they get Viagra.
Nice little scenario the drug companies have cooked up for all the men in the world. For men, they take statins, BP meds, blood thinners, anti-depressants (to counteract depression from statins) and usually end up asking for Viagra. The result: perfect cholesterol levels, muscle pain, muscle atrophy, cognitive decline, visual disturbances (just to name a few) and now blindness.
Am I missing something here???
How have the drug companies so brainwashed everyone???
Now that I got that out of my system, I'll respond to your final question.
Yes, statins are extremely stressful on relationships. Cognitive decline was the side effect that attacked our relationship. Once I realized the cause was Lipitor, what do we do next? The doctor doesn't believe it. So we went the route of Neurologist who ordered MRI brain scan and PET scans that came back negative; nothing wrong but Neuro still wanted hubby to take Aricept and resume statins. Bye... see ya' later!
Also went to the Neuropsychologist who said hubby definitely was in the early stages of Alzheimer's type dementia. This "assessment" report was delivered to us via standard mail. We were devastated. When I challenged his "assessment" he said, "Well, if your husband gets better, he doesn't have Alzheimer's. Those with Alzheimer's do not get better."
This was when I experienced what you describe as your partner feeling you are the cause. I insisted on all these reports trying to get to the bottom of the problem and now I had Alzheimer's dumped in my lap. I cried for days.
There are two very important people that helped me through this period. Dr Duane Graveline, our esteemed "forum host" and a very good friend who'd been through most and more of what my husband and I experienced. Her husband Mike Hope is one of the people featured in the "The Lipitor Dilemma" article.
Sharon's best advice, "Well at least you know where you stand right now, but things WILL get better... it's just a very slow process for some". And Sharon was correct. My husband is getting better but it's taken a strong commitment for me to help him. First he had to trust my judgment in challenging his doctor's (all of them). I read everything I can to "get the whole picture". And I now only rely on "trusted" sources. Dr Graveline and all the THINCS members.
THINCS website is an excellent source of info: ww.thincs.org/
As is Dr Graveline's:
http://www.spacedoc.net/
And Anthony Colpo - The Omnivoire: ww.theomnivore.com/
Great info from Great dedicated people.
Fran